Thursday 21 February 2008

Funerals & Bereavement

"God's love and power extend over all creation. Every life, including our own, is precious to God. Christians have always believed that there is hope in death as in life, and that there is new life in Christ over death.

Even those who share such faith find that there is a real sense of loss at the death of a loved one. We will each have had our own experiences of their life and death, with different memories and different feelings of love, grief and respect. To acknowledge this at the beginning of the service should help us to use this occasion to express our faith and our feelings as we say farewell, to acknowledge our loss and our sorrow, and to reflect on our own mortality. Those who mourn need support and consolation. Our presence at the funeral is part of that continuing support."

- from the Common Worship Funeral Service.

Bereavement is enough for anyone to try to cope with without the pressures of organising a funeral. Registering the death can be difficult. Very often the coroner may have to be involved before the death can be registered. This happens when a doctor hasn't been able to ascertain the cause of death immediately.

You will need to contact a funeral director, who will be able to guide you through the organising of the funeral. It is important that you ask the funeral director any questions you might have, and share any thoughts. The funeral director is there to help you.

You can use the Staff Who's Who link below to contact a minister directly, or ask the funeral director to do so. We will liaise with the funeral director to make sure that you are fully supported, and plan a service that meets your needs, and the wishes of your loved one.

In our area, there are a number of possibilities for the funeral service. A service can be held in Saint Martin’s. A service can be held in a crematorium chapel. A service can be held at the graveside in a cemetery. A service in church may conclude with a trip to a cemetery or a crematorium. In this case it is possible to have the funeral in Saint Martin’s, and then to proceed to the crematorium for the committal.

After cremation, it is possible to bury the cremated remains (ashes) in a graveyard or garden of remembrance at a later date. The remains are normally placed in a wooden casket, and are buried in a simple ceremony lasting a few minutes. It is then possible to mark the place with an appropriate memorial.

The clergy from Saint Martin’s are available to pray with anyone who is dying (often with the anointing of oil and/or Holy Communion). Please call The Vicar, The Rev’d. Gareth Bowen, 24hrs a day if necessary, 01322 – 523344 or 07775 - 674504.

We also remember all those for whom we have performed funerals in an annual memorial service, and invite friends and family to join with us.